Friday, October 12, 2007

When Is It Right To Hurt A Child ??

I'm finding that I'm getting more and more angry about it being OK for pregnant women to even CONSIDER relinquishing.

Why has society made it OK to hurt thousands and thousands of babies and thousands and thousands of mothers?

Deep, painful, life altering, psychological scaring - that stays - sometimes buried - for life.

Salt rubbed hard in those wounds when we're told - it was all for the best.

And that we should be happy that we have those scars - because that shows we are loved!

(that's some sick psychological bullsh*t right there)

Thanks Mum and Dad - you gave me my looks and my brain - and hey thanks for the trauma scares you gave me.

And thanks so much to everyone else for allowing that to be just A-OK.

Some days - yes - I am so very very angry at my mother, my father, my grandparents, and society for not sticking up for ME and keeping the baby - ME.

Some days - I think my mother and I should really just get a refund.

This is not what it's like in the happy adoption brochure.

It is NOT OK to allow this to keep happening.


Blogger suz said...

oh, poss, i so agree. its horrible. truly horrible. if anyone had told me the truth, the horror, the pain, the agony, I like to think I wouldnt have done this. actually, i am quite confident I wouldnt have.

13/10/07, 1:02 am  
Blogger Tina with much2say said...

Hiya Poss, didnt know how else to get hold of you (im a bit thick). Well something really spooky has just happened. I went and checked the link to that great article and yeh its no good cos you have to sign in. It is on the forgotten mothers board anyway. Ive just logged in and in tiny writing at the bottom it has your name! I need to show you what I mean how do i do that!

13/10/07, 1:28 am  
Blogger Tina with much2say said...

I have just been back to it again and Billie joe has put a link up with it now, guess where it links to?.. Here, haha. Its your article. I will change my link if its ok with you.
I warned you I was thick!
hugs back at ya!

13/10/07, 1:37 am  
Blogger elizabeth said...

No it isn't OK. I'm my perfect dream world no woman would ever be allowed to abandon her child. We live in a sick world that thinks we should be happy about losing our entire families. I'm glad you are speaking out. I know that I'll never be silenced again. Hugs to you. {{{Poss}}}

13/10/07, 1:29 pm  
Blogger Erika said...

i agree with you up until a point.

believe it or not, there are people out there who have no interest in raising their babies.

i think they are well in the minority though.the stories u hear from time to time about women dumping babies or leaving them on doorsteps is proof.

i wholeheartedly can see the destruction of the family. it starts by calling moms - birth mothers and ends with raising your children being called 'parenting'.as if parents and children are just interchangeable and love conquers it all.

im with you. it needs to stop.

i just dont want to see kids being raised by mothers and fathers that dont want them or wont change their life.

i long for the day these barbaric practices come to an end. and true orphans get loving parents and society accepts that families can be headed by single parents.

14/10/07, 11:38 am  
Blogger Lainey-Paney said...

So, women who don't want their children should be forced to keep them & raise them, and possibly abuse & neglect them?

...or, is just aborting them better?

19/10/07, 1:45 am  
Blogger Lainey-Paney said...

Okay....I just reread my post, and it seems harsh.

I just think that although this must be painful for you....some people don't agree with abortion, but for whatever various reasons, may find themselves pregnant. I just don't think that women who don't want to parent for whatever reason---or can't parent---for whatever reason, should be forced to keep children that they don't want, or can't provide for.

...furthermore, I think that children kept in those types of situations are at a higher risk for abuse &/or neglect.

19/10/07, 1:49 am  
Blogger Lainey-Paney said...

...and sometimes adoption DOES work out.

19/10/07, 1:51 am  
Blogger Cookie said...

You gotta love how whenever anyone criticizes unnecessary adoptions - someone is often compelled to mention that sometimes adoption does "work out." What even determines whether it "worked" or not? Besides even if an adoption appears to have worked out, it doesn't mean that it should have happened.

In some rare instances maybe adoption is the best option. But, what about all the other times? Woman who can and want to parent should be encouraged to do so. Virtually no one has ever suggested that women be forced to parent. That's plain silly!

As for that adoption-abortion link that many try to make, many women choose between parenting and adoption. It is a brash assumption to assume that a woman will only either abort or choose adoption.

19/10/07, 10:59 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Even at 58, the pain of adoption can be overwhelming. Thanks for putting words to my broken heart.

28/10/07, 2:58 pm  
Blogger Ungrateful Little Bastard said...

Thank you Possum, and thank you Anonymous as well. Yes, it never goes away.

3/11/07, 12:57 am  

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