I know how it feels to grow up adopted - do you?
Nobody should have to carry the burden of being a human band-aid for their parents' problems
I'm sorry you can't conceive that must be very painful for you. So is growing up adopted.
I'm sure it feels real bad to lose a child to adoption but plenty of people pass judgment on mothers in the most harsh way possible they get blanket labelled with awful stuff like they are all drug addicts or aren't capable of raising a child (of course only after they have finalized the adoption - prior to that they are angels and selfless godesses)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENMZZdaHI...
What I'm trying to say is, adoption is not all about you. Adoptees who speak about how it feels being adopted are brave and courageous people who often get labelled as having a bad experience or bitter etc etc but the truth is, we ARE adoption and no amount of name-calling or attempted patholozising (I'm looking at you noodles) is going to magically make our reality disappear.
ps You are right, the child is not literally 'abandoned' but please try to understand that this is an adults point of view. Despite how adults feel, many many children do FEEL abandoned.
For example would you tell a child whose father had left the family that they should not feel abandoned, because they still have a roof over their heads, a family and perhaps a replacement Dad? KWIM?
I'm an Adult Adoptee who was raised well and adores her parents so pleeeeeze stop with the 'bad experience' cliche - that's so not true