The Power A Mother Holds
I've been introduced to the Blog of PostSecret recently by new blogging Aussie adoptee at 'Life of an Adult Adoptee' - and I added it to my Bloglines feed.
People send in their secrets on home made postcards for all the world to see.
This postcard above (on an older post) spoke volumes to me - as it reminded me of all the times I wanted to confide in my adoptive mother - to reach out to her - to be heard and to be understood.
But she shot me down in flames the first time - so I never felt brave enough to ever try it again.
Mothers (and fathers) hold so much power over their children.
Children who only want to be loved and accepted - for just the beautiful little people that they are.
I NEVER want my kids to feel that sadness that I felt.
posted by Possum at 9:10 pm
15 Comments:
PostSecret is a powerful thing. There have been a few adoption related secrets posted. This is definitely a heartwrenching one.
Makes my guts hurt.
Oh, ((((Poss)))) I'm so sorry for the ways you've been made to feel unsafe in sharing yourself with your a-mom. The power that our parents hold is the strongest and tightest force - - and it's the little moments or the looks that can last forever and have a lifetime of impact - both postively and negatively.
I'm so sorry, Poss.
From where I stand, I see woman who has a beautiful, accepting, compassionate, open and incredibly loving heart who would provide a very safe and secure place for her children to be themselves and to express themselves fully, at all times.
Biggest hugs to you, Poss.
And I am sure your kids will never feel the sadness you did Possum. It cuts to the core and although I don't know how that feels as a kid, I do know how that feels as an adult - and its a feeling like no other and one you never want to repeat.
WOW! Nice new look - love it!
That postcard has me thinking. I've been doing a lot of that lately. Thanks for the link. I'm off to check it out.
Yea, that postcard got to me too.
Poss, this just breaks my heart. I honestly don't know what to do to get a-parents who heap this kind of guilt on their children to get over it. If it's as frustrating as it is to me, I can't imagine how painful it is for you.
Makes me very sad, for you and for any child who gets this reaction to a call for help.
It's interesting how many people associated feelings with that postcard, and others on the site as well. I know I look at that blog a lot. And yes, that one is a biggie. A mother holds so much power.
I just found your blog, and am so glad I did. I'm about to visit the archives.
It's been a while since I've visited PostSecret, but this one you've posted hit home. It could be mine, too. I'm sorry you can relate, but glad someone does.
I have to avoid PostSecret. It takes me to a place inside myself that I can't afford to go. I'm glad you posted this though. It gives people something to think about. Love, Rebecca
Hi Poss,
I haven't seen post secrets for a while, but that one is particularly close to home for so many.
For the record, your kids are very lucky to have you as their mummy!
Have a great week honey xx
I know the feeling of wanting to protect your children from what you experienced, the strength of it, when it is brought to the surface is frightening
joy
Wow, that post card speaks volumes to me too, Possum. For me, it is more about the rest of society who laughs at our angst as adult adoptees.
Thank you for the link, btw, I'm adding it.
Thank you all so much for dropping in.
Biggest hugs,
Poss. xxx
I never asked my aparents for help - sort of knew they couldn't understand and sort of wanted them to bring it up (common, apparently). But they had no training or counseling either so expect I'd have got the same response as you did.
I still never ever ask for help of any kind. But I don't mind anymore.
Nice one Poss
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