When you adopt a kid, don't they just grow up to love their real parents more than you? So what's the point?My Answer:
The whole misconception with adoption & adoptees - lies in the stories of which parent the adoptee loves most.
I have 3 kids - do I love one child more than the others - NO.
The human heart is capable of loving many.
If the adoptive parents love their adoptee - and allow their adoptee to love everyone they care about in their lives - an adoptee has plenty of space to love all - including both sets of parents.
The problem lies with those adoptive parents that treat their adoptees as material possession - stating that they must love their adoptive parents above all others - and not letting their adoptees make up their own minds.
As parents - whether biological or adoptive - we are in charge of our children until they reach adulthood.
If we have done a good job - been fair - loved them without question - then - and only then - will they love us back.
If we have f*cked up - they'll run from us as fast as they can.
Yes - adoptees have a link to their biological parents - some choose to find it - some do not - but it does exist.
If adoptive parents perceive some kind of 'unfairness' with the balance of love - then - perhaps they're being a little selfish and unrealistic about how love should work.
Those adoptees that I know - that have had full support to seek out their biological roots - ultimately have a greater respect and love for their adoptive parents than of those that would behave differently. It's not a competition.
Adoption should be about "IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD" - not about controlling another human being for the rest of their natural lives.